Many times as a Stepparent we can often feel like we are losing ourselves. There can be a lot of compromise in a blended family. We may be moving into a home with its own flow and routine. We may feel like we are losing our identity and energy.  Here are 5 ways to feel more empowered in your Stepmom role.

Take Action and Follow Through on Your Commitments to Yourself. 

To feel empowered in any area of your life, taking action is the first step to springboard you. If there is something you have been putting off, take that first step towards your goal. This will generate energy. This energy creates momentum and gives you confidence. When we feel like we are lost or deflated, taking action towards our goals, tells your subconscious mind that you can be trusted to follow through on yourself. 

This will start to flow into your environment. You will feel more confident in yourself and therefore will feel more confident as a Stepmom.

So whatever that goal is, starting your fitness program, learning a new skill, or improving your golf game, get out there and take the first step to achieving it!

Step Away When Needed and Release Guilt

There are inevitably times in our Stepmom role when we are the third (or maybe fourth) wheel. Sometimes there are just too many cooks in the kitchen! In these instances, it is ok to step away and most importantly release any guilt that may come with that. 

That is the beauty of a Stepparent role. There are also bio parents in the picture who can take on some of the heavy lifting. You can choose what situations you engage in and can step away from others. This gives you an amazing opportunity to protect your positive energy and choose what you engage in. 

Stay True to Your Hobbies and Interests

Blending families can be busy and chaotic. It can be very easy to put your interests to the back burner. Make time for your hobbies, don’t put yourself at the end of the list of things to do in a week. This can create resentment and discontent with yourself and your relationships in your family. 

It is not selfish to make time for yourself and what lights you up!

Fake it Till You Make it. 

If you are feeling a little lackluster in your Stepmom role, start to think of the person or role model you want to be and start emulating that person. Think about how the person dresses, acts, and interacts with her kids and spouse. What are her hobbies and how does she treat her friends and family and herself?

Start to think about how you see yourself as the kick-ass Stepmom that you are, and be that person. Your confidence will grow and you feel more empowered. 

Trust the Process.

You chose this role for a reason. You are in this role for a reason. Trust the process and be authentically you. All of your hard work will pay off in the long run, I promise!